What happened?Where did this happen?When did this happen?With whom did this happen?How did this happen?How intense was the mood?What emotions did you feel at that time?What else did you feel?What did you notice in your body? Where did you feel it?What went through your mind?What disturbed you?What did those thoughts mean to you or say about you or the situation? What are you responding to?What 'button' is this pressing for you?What would be the worst thing that could happen?Take a breath...is this fact or opinion?What would someone else say about this situation? What is the bigger picture?What advice would you give someone else?

Is this reaction in proportion to the actual event?

Is this really as important as it seems?

Is there another way of seeing it?

What could you do differently? What would be more effective?